Self Help Books I Live By

Since Asians love disclaimers (where else in the world would they put a sign at the car park with "park at your own risk" and charge you for it? what if it's their own staffs who broke into your car? is it even legally binding?) so I'm putting a disclaimer here that I don't really live by what's preached in the books 100%, but I just find them practical and making sense to me better than the other best selling self help books out there.

BOOK 1

This is the very first self help book I ever bought back in 2007. It has a lot of practical tips in improving your communication skills. It helps in developing ease in social situations. Just to quote what's written from Amazon  website:

Leil Lowndes' How to Talk to Anyone offers 101 time-tested hints, tips, and techniques for confidently communicating with others. A bestselling author and renowned communications consultant, Lowndes focuses on ice-breaking skills and communication techniques that are proven successful when making a positive first impression, establishing instant rapport and credibility, and more.

Packed with basic, no-nonsense advice and solid research evidence about which techniques work best in which areas, How to Talk to Anyone show readers how to:

1. Make small talk not so small
2. Use body language to captivate an audience
3. Look like you know what you're talking about--even when you don't

The book is easy and fun to read. There's also a section on how to talk to your loved ones, which I didn't really finish, hence explaining why I'm such a failure so far. ;P

BOOK 2

The Law of Attraction is a metaphysical New Thought belief that "like attracts like”, that positive and negative thinking bring about positive and negative physical results, respectively. According to the Law of Attraction, the phrase "I need more money" allows the subject to continue to "need more money". If the subject wants to change this they would focus their thoughts on the goal (having more money) rather than the problem (needing more money). This might take the form of phrases such as "I will make more money" or "I will find a job that pays very well". (from Wikipedia)

This book is all about positive thinking. You're not even supposed to write about that guy from hell that you went on a blind date with in your secret, personal diary. But of course, once in a while, you can't help but whine about it. I would suggest to go talk about it to a friend/confidante rather than writing it down. That way, you don't have a lingering written reminder of that negative thing.

BOOK 3

Who else but the guru himself? I love reading his books, but you have to be in a certain state of mind to read and absorb every word as it is not exactly leisure reading. So, I bought this book instead. If I'm in need of some inspirations, I will just flip the pages to look for a relevant one. For how I'm feeling right now, it would be:

"It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting."  - The Alchemist

"Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own."  - The Alchemist

"When someone leaves, it's because someone else is about to arrive." - The Zahir

"There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. 
But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there."  - The Fifth Mountain

"if pain must come, may it come quickly. because i have a life to live, and i need to live it in the best possible. if he has to make a choice, may he make it now. then i will either wait for him or forget him. waiting is painful. forgetting is painful. but not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering." 

Alright, I'm beginning to sound like an old maid already...actually I have a lot of other self help books on the shelves, but these three are the ones that I really love. Maybe next time I should blog about self help books that doesn't really help. Till then, oh-I-really-need-to-shower-and-sleep. Good nite!!

P/S: Going house hunting on Saturday, yeay!

Solace, Consolation, Relief

Surah 94: Al-Inshirah

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful 1. Have We not expanded thee thy breast?- 2. And removed from thee thy burden 3. The which did gall thy back?- 4. And raised high the esteem (in which) thou (art held)? 5. So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief: 6. Verily, with every difficulty there is relief. 7. Therefore, when thou art free (from thine immediate task), still labour hard, 8. And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.

The Book of Awesome

Don't they say for every cloud, there's a silver lining?

I call it the power of positive thinking.

Sometimes, it might not be easy, especially at the most despairing moments, but reminding myself to stay positive certainly has done me a lot of good and luck.

I came across this book called "The Book of Awesome" in this month's Reader's Digest. It's a blog-to-book compilations by Neil Pasricha. He started the blog, www.1000awesomethings.com at the time when he was in a marriage heading in the wrong direction, to remind himself of all the good things in life.

These can be everyday things that we take for granted, or little things that make us happy. For me, one of them would be custard buns at tea time! :) ...they're really 'Barney Stinson-awesome'!!

Some snippets of awesome things from the book:

• When you hear someone's smile over the phone.
• When your taxi driver knows all the best shortcuts.
• Licking the batter off the cake mixer.
• Your favorite old comfy T-shirt.
• Finally peeing after holding it forever.
• Waking up and realising it's Saturday.
• Hearing a song that reminds you of someone you love. (or loved)
• Smiling and thinking of good friends who are gone.

Maybe I should write something like that too in this blog....like what makes me happy today.

Being home to see my little brother and little sister in a pillow fight. Cute.

LOSE 20 FOR 20

It has been a good Miri week.

I had custard buns for tea everyday for these 3 days. Maaflah ye kalau ada yang sengal tengok orang update status facebook pasal makanan.

No matter how late I come to office, 3 out of 4 days I managed to get really good parking spaces.
And that applies to when finding parking at the crowded Bintang Megamall as well.

My boss(es) accommodated all of my requests… (menyesal pulak tak request for overseas course)

And since I feel so lucky this week, I guess it's a good time to start a new project.. kalau korang tengok kat penjuru atas sebelah kiri tu sudah ada ticker… 20 for 20.. actually it started with my 2 friends that I hang out with in KL…for the new year they have this "Lose 30 for 30" project… to lose 30 kg as this year they are turning 30.

As for me, I think to lose 30kg macam banyak sangatla pulak….hilanglah trademark bontot tonggek aku….hahahaha…unless if I changed it to Lose 30(pounds) by the age of 30 (another 2 years for me).
But then, I've been trying out my nice blouses and dresses over the past few days and noticed a lot of them are getting really tight. I can't even button some of my old jeans. Thus, I'm coming up with the "Lose 20 for 20" thing for myself.

20 kg for the 20 dresses that I want to fit comfortably into. Hopefully I can be disciplined enough to stick to it…. Am gonna start with buying a new pair of running shoes and a couple of rounds around KLCC park.

Wish me luck, eh?

On Chances

In this world there is always

one person waiting for another,

be it in the middle of a desert

or in the middle of a big city,

And when those two people pass each other

and their eyes meet,

past and future lose all importance,

and the only thing that exists

is that moment and the incredible certainty

that everything under the sun

was written by the same Hand,

the Hand that awakens Love,

and that makes a twin soul for everyone who works,

rests and seeks treasures under the sun.

Without this our human dreams 

would make no sense.

-Paulo Coelho, "Maktub"

How to be Lonely

First time loners? Or alone much? Read this.
Got this from Miss F's friend's blog:

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you've not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren't okay with it, then just wait. You'll find it's fine to be alone once you're embracing it.

We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library. Where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books. You're not supposed to talk much anyway so it's safe there.

There's also the gym. If you're shy you could hang out with yourself in mirrors, you could put headphones in (guitar stroke).

And there's public transportation, because we all gotta go places.

And there's prayer and meditation. No one will think less if you're hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.

Start simple. Things you may have previously (electric guitar plucking) based on your avoid being alone principals.

The lunch counter. Where you will be surrounded by chow-downers. Employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town and so they -- like you -- will be alone.

Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.

When you are comfortable with eat lunch and run, take yourself out for dinner. A restaurant with linen and silverware. You're no less intriguing a person when you're eating solo dessert to cleaning the whipped cream from the dish with your finger. In fact some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.
Go to the movies. Where it is dark and soothing. Alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.

And then, take yourself out dancing to a club where no one knows you. Stand on the outside of the floor till the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one's watching...because, they're probably not. And, if they are, assume it is with best of human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats is, after all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you're sweating, and beads of perspiration remind you of life's best things, down your back like a brook of blessings.

Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you.

Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there're always statues to talk to and benches made for sitting give strangers a shared existence if only for a minute and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversations you get in by sitting alone on benches might've never happened had you not been there by yourself

Society is afraid of alonedom, like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements, like people must have problems if, after a while, nobody is dating them. but lonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.

You could stand, swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther for the endless quest for company. But no one's in your head and by the time you translate your thoughts, some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept.

Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those sappy slogans from preschool over to high school's groaning were tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cuz if you're happy in your head than solitude is blessed and alone is okay.

It's okay if no one believes like you. All experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can't think like you, for this be releived, keeps things interesting lifes magic things in reach.

And it doesn't mean you're not connected, that communitie's not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it. take silence and respect it. if you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it. if your family doesn't get you, or religious sect is not meant for you, don't obsess about it.

You could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it.

If your heart is bleeding make the best of it

There is heat in freezing, be a testament.

-- Poem written by Tanya Davis on How To Be Alone


http://lybio.net/tanya-davis-how-to-be-alone/poem/

Biggest Loser Asia 2

I didn't really watch BLA Season 2. During the BLA Season 1, I always make sure that I'm home to sit in front of the TV and watch it....lagipun, saya suka minah ni:

tapi bila BLA Season 2 punya host dah bertukar jadi minah ni, it became one of the reasons for me to lose interest in watching it:

she's super sweet and nice in the show, tapi macam ada missing link la....minah ni pernah ke jadi cik tembun?

then, BLA Season 1, ada mamat nih:

si Aaron yang dari Malaysia tu pun not bad jugak...and the girls are not bad looking too...

but for this BLA Season 2, this is my favorite participant:

FISH!!! a.k.a Nurhafizah bt Mohammed from Singapore....I like this girl as well as her personality. She has lost 24 kg so far....from 96 to 72kg uols....aku harap takde orang dengki2 nak eliminate dia before they reach the individual challenge tu....hopefully she'll make it to the finals...

P/S: all these posts were auto-published tau....I don't bring my laptop when I travel

simple guidelines for happiness

1. Free your heart from hate.

2. Free your mind from worry.

3. Live simple.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

6. Have faith.

ni boleh dikira as tribute ke?

For the whole month of October, Astro has been airing old P Ramlee movies through various channels; Ria, Prima, Citra, Warna, Ceria and even History channel...actually sebelum ni pun dekat Prima memang selalu main filem P Ramlee, but this month memang memanjang la cerita P Ramlee sahaja....so, at the little time I spent at home this month, aku memang akan tengokla cerita P Ramlee ni kat TV.....sekali masa 7-9pm....then after that mesti tertido depan TV then woke up to see another P Ramlee movie playing tengah-tengah malam which ends at 2.45am....sanggup tengok tu...ada sekali tengok "Anakku Sazali", went to sleep and had a very sad dream sampai menangis teresak-esak dalam tidur.....saya memang minat cerita P Ramlee y'all....back during the days of no pirated VCDs, kat rumah saya we have an almost complete collection of original P Ramlee's VCDs.....huhu

Anyway, malam ni is like the finale for the P Ramlee month kot....kat Astro Ria tayang Konsert Di Manakan Ku Cari Ganti and kat Astro Citra (yang ni korang kena langgan la kalo nak) diorang tayang P Ramlee The Musical.... P Ramlee was born in 1929 and passed away in 1973 at the age of 44 years....muda lagi tu....but I remembered from either TV show or something I read back then that during his last years it was quite sad.....bila tengok balik the musical tu....I learnt that he has to compete against the radio and TV phenomenon, pop yeh-yeh (tiba-tiba rasa benci dengan L Ramlie dan Jeffrydin boleh?) and he was even boo-ed during one of his public performances kat stadium mana entah...Saloma pulak has to sing in night clubs in KL to make ends meet....sedih kan....ada hikmahnya Allah menjemput dia pergi lebih awal...it must have been a hard fall for him....he was on top of the world, and suddenly within a span of few years jadi macam tu, kena treat macam apa je....yelah crowd kat Malaysia ni bukan boleh harap sangat....tengokla apa jadi dengan industri muzik and perfileman kita....memang susah nak ada penyokong......P Ramlee, like other genius artistes (macam Van Gogh, Beethoven) lived their lives to a sad ending....bila dah mati baru orang nak mengenang-ngenang.....those titles awarded to him are all awarded post-humously....and I don't know where do the royalties from his songs are going to....anak kandung dia yang boleh diharap, Nasir P Ramlee dah meninggal and si Sazali pulak adalah buruh DBKL (if I'm not mistaken)...

Anyway, this is the last song that P Ramlee wrote.....sedeyyy woooo.....I'm putting the lyrics in here....nak dengar lagunya, just google or find it at YouTube.....fikiran saya terganggu selepas dengar lagu itu and hence gigih mencari charger laptop so that I can google it up and write about it.....

Air Mata di Kuala Lumpur

Airmata di Kuala Lumpur
Jatuh berkecai hancur berderai

Putus kasih yang tak ku duga

Dikau pergi tak tinggal pesan

Hancur musnah impian mulia

Istana ku bina menjadi pusara

Gelaplah pasti masa hadapan

Jiwaku merayau utara dan selatan

Hidup sudah tiada beerti

Zahirku hidup hai batinku mati

Remuk redam hatiku hancur

Airmata di Kuala Lumpur

Oh sedihnya..... Al-Fatihah.


some FAQs about P Ramlee at this link ---> CLICK

Aku menangis tidak terhingga

for the sake of posting

I don't really think whatever I said make sense until....

Ujie quoted me in her blog post.

hinss hinss (*hidung kembang*)....I can be the next Dr Fazley la nampaknya. (nak jadi macam Ustazah Bahiyah memang out la kan)


P/S: saya agak iritasi kalau orang mintak saya buat sesuatu dan cakap a.s.a.p....just give me a date please and I'll do my best to meet the dateline...ada paham?!

Kisah Abu Dzar al-Ghiffari bertemu Abu Jahal

Sudah lama Abu Jahal bersahabat akrab dengan Abu Dzar Al Ghiffari. Bahkan sebelum Islam masuk. Tidak heran, karena keduanya adalah saudagar yang sama-sama mengadu peruntungannya dengan berdagang. Keduanya terkenal sebagai kongsi dagang yang saling menguntungkan. Setiap kali Abu Dzar datang ke kota Mekkah, ia selalu membawa barang-bara...ng dagangan yang hanya dijual dengan perantaraan Abu Jahal.


Tetapi hari itu alangkah herannya Abu Jahal ketika kedatangan Abu Dzar ternyata tidak disertai dengan barang apapun seperti biasanya. Apalagi uang perniagaan.
“Kau membawa barang dagangan, hai sahabatku,” Abu Jahal yang mempunyai nama asli Amr bin Hisyam ini bertanya.
“Seperti yang kau lihat, tidak,” Abu Dzar menjawab.
“Engkau membawa uang?” tanya Abu Jahal semakin bingung dan heran.
“Wah, juga tidak.”
Abu Jahal merengut mendengar jawaban sahabatnya itu. Dengan masih diliputi tanda tanya besar, ia berkata lagi, “Ada apa denganmu? Apa yang membuatmu datang jauh-jauh ke Mekkah tanpa membawa barang dagangan ataupun uang? Adakah tujuanmu yang lain?”

Abu Dzar tersenyum dan tetap bersikap tenang. “Sahabatku, Abu Jahal,” ujarnya, “Kali ini kedatanganku bukan untuk mengadu untung dalam perdagangan.”
Dahi Abu Jahal berkerut. “Lantas untuk apakah?”
“Aku ingin bertemu dengan kemenakanmu.”
“Hah, kau ingin bertemu dengan kemenakanku?” Abu Jahal tidak mengerti. Sungguh, tapi tampaknya ia sudah mulai curiga. “Siapa yang kaumaksud?”
“Muhammad.”
“Muhammad?”

“Ya. Kudengar dari beberapa sahabatku bahwa Muhammad, kemenakanmu itu telah diangkat menjadi seorang Rasul. Engkau harus bangga mempunyai kemenakan semulia itu, sahabatku.” Abu Dzar berkata dengan senyum, tapi kemudian merasa heran karena tidak mendapatkan jawaban apapun dari orang yang ada di hadapannya itu.

Sejurus kemudian, terlihat kerut di wajah Abu Jahal. Ia berkata dengan suara keras, “Sahabatku, dengarkanlah aku jika kau ingin selamat. Jangan kautemui dia! Sekali-kali jangan pernah menemui kemenakanku itu!”

“Kenapa kau berkata seperti itu?” tanya Abu Dzar Al Ghiffari.

Abu Jahal menarik nafas sejenak. Ia memandangi wajah Abu Dzar dan kemudian berkata, “Kautahu, Muhammad itu amat menarik. Ia sangat mempesona. Sekali berjumpa dengannya, aku jamin kau pasti akan benar-benar terpikat dengannya. Wajahnya bersih, perkataannya berisi mutiara indah dan selalu benar. Perilakunya amat lembut, dan sopan membacakan wahyu, semua kalimatnya menyentuh jiwa.”

Kali ini Abu Dzar yang ganti memandangi wajah Abu Jahal dengan lekat. “Aku tidak mengerti. Tapi, apa itu berarti kau yakin dia seorang Rasul?”

Abu Jahal mengangguk dengan tegas dan cepat. “Jelas. Mustahil rasanya jika ia bukan seorang Rasul. Otaknya teramat pintar-bahkan cerdas. Walaupun ia tidak bisa membaca ataupun menulis. Ia baik kepada semua orang tua ataupun muda, budi pekerti dan akhlaknya sangat mulia. Satu hal lagi yang perlu kauketahui, ia sangat tabah menghadapi apapun yang terjadi padanya. Ia mempunyai daya tarik yang hebat sekali.”

“Aku tidak habis mengerti terhadapmu, Abu Jahal sahabatku,” Abu Dzar menggeleng-gelengka n kepalanya. “Kau bilang kau yakin bahwa kemenakanmu itu adalah seorang Rasul.”

“Yakin betul. Aku tidak pernah meragukannya sedikitpun.”
“Kau percaya bahwa ia benar?”

“Lebih dari sekadar percaya.”
“Tapi engkau melarangku untuk menemuinya…”

Abu Jahal mengangkat bahunya. “Begitulah….”
“Lalu, apakah engkau mengikuti ajaran agamanya?”

Abu Jahal tampak menarik kedua alisnya. Roman mukanya berubah merah. “Ulangi sekali lagi pertanyaanmu…”
“Engkau mengikuti agamanya, menjadi pemeluk Islam?” Abu Dzar kembali mengulangi perkataannya seperti yang diperintahkan oleh Abu Jahal.

Kali ini Abu Jahal begitu geram. “Sahabatku,” ujarnya dengan nada suara yang tertahan, “sampai detik ini, dan nanti-nantinya aku adalah Abu jahal dan tetap Abu Jahal. Aku bukan orang yang sinting. Otakku belum miring. Dibayar berapapun aku tidak akan menjadi pengikut Muhammad!”

“Lho, tapi bukankah kau yakin Muhammad itu benar?”

“Sahabatku, catat ini, walaupun aku yakin bahwa Muhammad itu memang benar, aku tetap akan melawan Muhammad sampai kapanpun jua. Sampai titik darah penghabisanku.” Abu Jahal menggerung.

“Apa sebabnya?”

“Kau tahu, sahabatku Abu Dzar Al Ghiffari, jika aku menjadi pengikut kemenakanku sendiri, maka kedudukan dan wibawaku akan hancur. Akan kuletakan di mana mukaku di hadapan bangsa Quraisy?”

Abu Dzar menggeleng-gelengkan kepalanya, “Pendirianmu keliru, sahabatku.”

“Aku tahu aku memang keliru.”

“Engkau akan kalah kelak oleh kekeliruanmu itu.”

“Baik, biar saja aku kalah. Bahkan aku tahu di akhirat kelak bakal dimasukkan ke dalam neraka jahim. Tapi aku tidak mau dikalahkan Muhammad di dunia, walaupun di akhirat sana aku pasti dikalahkan.”

Sambil berkata begitu, Abu Jahal beranjak meninggalkan Abu Dzar Al Ghiffari yang terdiam. Tampaknya, Abu Dzar tidak habis mengerti betapa anehnya perilaku dan sikap Abu Jahal itu dalam menerima kebenaran hanya karena berasal dari kemenakannya sendiri.

* I was in the library a couple of weeks back and I found myself reading a book about Abu Dzar al-Ghiffari...bagi saya dia adalah seorang tokoh Islam yang tersendiri...you can google or get other books on him if you want to know more.....and guess what, I finally found a perfect name if I ever have a son...hehehe, berangan tak sudah....calon pun takde...

Independent Women

performed by Destiny's Child.....go go girl powerr!!


Lucy Liu...with my girl, Drew... Cameron D. and Destiny Charlie's Angels, Come on Uh Uh Uh

Question: Tell me what you think about Me
I buy my own diamonds and I buy my Own rings
only ring your celly when I'm feellin' lonely
when it's all over Please get up and leave


Question: Tell Me how you feel about this
try to Control me boy you get dismissed
pay my Own fun, oh I pay my own bills
always 50/50 in relationships


Bridge:/


The shoes on my feet
I've bought it
The clothes I'm wearing
I've bought it
The rock I'm rockin
I've bought it
'Cause I depend on me
If I wanted the watch you're wearin'
I'll buy it
The house I live in
I've bought it
The car I'm driving
I've bought it
I depend on me
(I depend on me)


Chorus/


All the women who are independent
Throw your hands up at me
All the honeys who makin' money
Throw your hands up at me
All the mommas who profit dollas
Throw your hands up at me
All the ladies who truly feel me
Throw your hands up at me


Bridge 2/


Girl I didn't know you could down like that
Charlie, how your Angels get down like that
Girl I didn't know you could down like that
Charlie, how your Angels get down like that


Tell me how you feel about this
who Would I want if I would wanna live
I Worked hard and sacrificed to get what I get
ladies, it ain't easy bein' Independent


Question: how'd like this Knowledge that I brought
braggin' on That cash that cash that he gave you Is yo' front
if you're gonna brag make Sure it's your money that you flaunt
Depend on noone else to give you what You want


Bridge:1x/
Chorus:1x/
Bridge 2:1x/


Destiny's Child
Wassup?
You in the house?
Sur nuff
Well break these people off Angle style


Child Of Destiny(Woah)
Independent Beauty(Woah)
No one else can scare me(Ooh Woah)
Charlie's Angel's(Woah)
Chorus:1x/
Bridge2:2x/


Good Morning Angels, Good Morning Charlie

Everybody's Free (To Wear Sunscreen)

written by Baz Luhrman

Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.

The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience…

I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….

You’re not as fat as you imagine. 

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum.

The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. 

Floss 

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
yourself. 

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium. 

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever
own..

Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for
good. 

Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future. 

Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. 

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel. Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. 

Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85. 

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it.

Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen..

singing my heart out....

after sekian lama tuning in to ERA and HitzFM since they start airing in Miri last month, I got tired of listening to adverts and the same current hits songs over and over again....so I revert back to the old faithful MuzikFM by RTM.....best tau channel ni....DJ dia tak buat lawak spastik macam Din Beramboi (walaupun saya gelak sambil pening jugak dengan lawak dia) and diorang takdela segmen kantoikan pendengar macam 'Gotcha' dan 'Panggilan Hangit' yang after a while, I think is so cliche, and I wouldn't like to be the butt of somebody's joke / prank call.

so I tuned in back to MuzikFM....feels so refreshing to listen to the songs, they have a mix of English (maybe around 25% of the playlist) and Malay songs....dan yang bestnya...diorang main lagu retro dan juga terkini...
sangat sesuai untuk melayan perasaan (hehehe, itulah motif sebenarnya).

so, guess what song made me smile and sang all the way from carpark to my desk?
huhu...lagu jiwang abad yang lepas song of the century bak kata Miss E....the ultimate....

Cinta Di Akhir Garisan

Cabaran penuh liku

lazimnya kan berlalu

bila cinta bersatu

Buang segala prasangka

yang datang tanpa rela

diatasi segera

Belum bersemi adanya sangsi

inilah nyatanya

walaupun pedih menguris tabah

harus kita fikirkan

Cinta sebenar ( naluri )

ada sabar ( serasi )

tiada getar luahkanlah hatimu

inilah buktinya

cinta yang diakhir garisan

Setelah dengan ikhlas

memberi tanpa balas

usah diam membisu

kau curi pintu hati

kau buka dengan janji

keikhlasan ku nanti

Jangan memendam luahan rasa

curahkan semua

disitu kau dapat rasakan

kebenaran menyala

Walaupun kau masih mencari cinta

jika kau berdusta kata

hancurlah segalanya

hatimu yang bersinar mencurah rasa

terima semuanya

dirimu yang punca bahagia

huhuhu...why do I sound like a lovefool lately?

post-run

My body is aching. Sakit gilerr. Have to stay off high heels for a while.

Berjalan pun kengkang macam orang lepas beranak (ye ke?)

I'm not the only one though.

A friend gave this advice,

"Pain is weakness leaving the body"

Hmmmm....which must have meant, I was weak to begin with. Really unfit and weak.

Couch potato. Meatbag... tummy-tums

Feels like running again though. Can't wait to plan for the next event (which has to be next year, sad to say....have plans for the rest of the year already).

Wait until I recover.


P/S: Just for the record, I aimed to finish in 100 mins. Did it in 1 hr 41 mins though (101 mins). Consoled myself with the fact that my timing matched my running number (1414).

"+"ve lah....

Meminjam kata-kata Si Zahiril Adzim;

"Tidak ada kehidupan yang ku angankan,
cuma kental meredah kehidupan yang ada
sambil menggalas cita-cita

Walau macam mana celakanya kehidupan itu,
ia tetap kehidupan"


That's the attitude that I'm going to hold, come what may. I always have a backup plan for the worst case scenario (though in reality, we never know how it will turn out). But at least I'll know where and how to start picking up the pieces of my life.

I am not in a serious relationship at the moment and the company is going through transition.

I stood up to my dad when he kept pestering me about being selective and the fact that my sister got engaged. Told him to stop doing that coz' it's messing up with my positive bubble.

This applies to every other aspects in my life as well.

Period.

Spot on...tepat sekali!

"I'm going to smile like nothing's wrong, talk like everything's perfect, act like it's all a dream, and pretend it's not hurting me."



-->You have a lot of things in your life that constantly bring you down, but you always try to smile and cover it up like nothing is wrong. You just want to live your life and not let your problems bring you down, as bad as you want to show it, you keep it to yourself



Was checking out the "Which Quote is the Quote for You?" on Facebook coz my friend, Miss F is doing the same quiz. Taken aback by the result. Termangu sekejap diriku ini. 88% mengena kat batang hidung.

Smile though your heart is aching

Smile even though its breaking

When there are clouds in the sky, youll get by

If you smile through your fear and sorrow

Smile and maybe tomorrow

Youll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness

Hide every trace of sadness

Although a tear may be ever so near

Thats the time you must keep on trying

Smile, whats the use of crying?

Youll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just smile

P/S: also watch this Charlie Chaplin video on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=iu-rLA4POkI

cerita pensel

The story of the pencil

February 17, 2007

A boy was watching his grandmother write a letter. At one point he asked:

‘Are you writing a story about what we’ve done? Is it a story about me?’

His grandmother stopped writing her letter and said to her grandson:

‘I am writing about you, actually, but more important than the words is the pencil I’m using. I hope you will be like this pencil when you grow up.’

Intrigued, the boy looked at the pencil. It didn’t seem very special.‘But it’s just like any other pencil I’ve ever seen!’

'That depends on how you look at things. It has five qualities which, if you manage to hang on them, will make you a person who is always at peace with the world.’

‘First quality: you are capable of great things, but you must never forget that there is a hand guiding your steps. We call that hand God, and He always guides us according to His will.’

‘Second quality: now and then, I have to stop writing and use a sharpner. That makes the pencil suffer a little, but afterwards, he’s much sharper. So you, too, must learn to bear certain pains and sorrows, because they will make you a better person.

‘Third quality: the pencil always allows us to use an eraser to rub out any mistakes. This means that correcting something we did is not necessarily a bad thing; it helps to keep us on the road to justice.’

‘Fourth quality: what really matters in a pencil is not its wooden exterior, but the graphite inside. So always pay attention to what is happening inside you.’

‘Finally, the pencil’s fifth quality: it always leaves a mark. in just the same way, you should know that everything you do in life will leave a mark, so try to be conscious of that in your every action’

Source: Like the Flowing River by Paulo Coelho